What Happens When You Can't Find a Therapist Who Gets It?
You’ve finally decided to look for a therapist. You’ve sifted through online directories, called your insurance, maybe even reached out to a few providers. But every intake form asks for “legal sex.” Every waiting room is gendered. Every provider bio says “LGBTQ-friendly,” but you’re not sure what that actually means.
So you ask yourself the question so many trans people face:
What happens when no one seems to get it — and you still need help?
The Exhaustion of Explaining Yourself
Too many trans people enter therapy already braced for harm. We show up prepared to teach our providers about basic gender 101, or to defend our pronouns, or to justify the ways we cope with a world that’s hostile to our existence. And that’s if we can even get through the door.
Instead of feeling seen, we feel studied. Instead of safety, we get skepticism.
And eventually, a lot of us give up — not because we didn’t want support, but because the support available wasn’t made for us.
Affirming Care Is More Than a Buzzword
“Trans-affirming” shouldn’t mean you’re just willing to see trans clients. It should mean:
You know how gender and trauma intersect
You understand how dysphoria, eating, and substance use can show up together
You don’t assume that “transition” means the same thing for everyone
You center autonomy and lived experience in your clinical approach
In short: you don’t make us choose between being trans and being supported.
That’s Why We Built The Source
We created The Source for trans adults who’ve been let down, misdiagnosed, or pushed out of care. We know what it’s like to feel like no provider can hold your story — because many of us have been there ourselves.
At The Source, our care is:
Designed for trans people from the ground up
Specialized in eating disorders, trauma, and substance use
Delivered by a team of clinicians and peers with lived experience
Accessible via telehealth across multiple states
You shouldn’t have to explain your existence to get help. You shouldn’t have to choose between being seen and being treated. Here, you don’t have to.
